I have begun learning about what God is calling me to be as a woman, a wife, a homemaker, and someday a mother.
In Genesis, God created Eve to be a help meet to Adam. This means that Eve was created as a suitable helper to him, her husband. She was to assist him in all things and help him aspire to achieve all that he could. She was his helper in fulfilling God’s calling for her husband.
This is a tall order. Being a help meet to your husband could require many different things. Being supportive, creating a home that is a haven for your husband, building up his self esteem, having an attitude of servitude, and loving self-sacrificially. Being a wife is a very high calling indeed.
King James Version (KJV)
25Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
I think many women struggle with being their husband’s help meet because they dislike submission to their husbands. Submitting to your husband does not mean that he can walk all over you. The Bible commands husbands to love their wives and if a husband is loving his wife, he will want to listen to her. Her opinions will be valued and taken into consideration. Yes, the man has the final say in matters as the head of the household, but he will decide in love what is best for his family. Submission is something that I think needs to be recaptured. So many women are caught up in what society is demanding from women that they overlook what God has called for in their lives. The Proverbs 31 woman paints a picture of how a woman should conduct herself and manage her home…
King James Version (KJV)
10Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
31Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
This woman works in her home…she is not idle and she accomplishes many tasks within a day. This woman is impressive and intimidating. I do not think that these verses are describing one particular woman, but an ideal woman that all women should aspire to be like. Striving to be like the Proverbs 31 woman should be a daily undertaking, something that you continually work to shape yourself into. Throughout my home I have posted note cards that say things like “be kind, be energetic, be emotionally healthy, be a wise stewardess of our finances, etc.” When I see these notes to myself posted throughout my home on cupboards, the backs of doors or the sides of mirrors, I am uplifted and encouraged. I fail daily at being kind, loving, and contented, but when I fail, I am challenged to be better tomorrow. No one is perfect, and it is a wonderful reminder that YES! I do need Jesus!! We all do!
I will be posting much more on this topic as I feel it is very significant! I hope that you will be learning along with me and sharing the revelations God has given to you regarding the scriptures for women and the lives we should be living. I am so looking forward to my journey through life as a woman, wife, homemaker, someday mother that God has called me to be!
Blessings In Christ,