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What Family Should Be… December 17, 2011

Filed under: Faith,Family,Marriage,Ministry — fullofhisgrace @ 2:49 pm
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Today I was thinking about family and decided to look up the definition in the online dictionary…..

 fam·i·ly  (fm-l, fml)

n. pl. fam·i·lies


a. A fundamental social group in society typically consisting of one or two parents and their children.

b. Two or more people who share goals and values, have long-term commitments to one another, and reside usually in the same dwelling place.

2. All the members of a household under one roof.

3. A group of persons sharing common ancestry.

4. Lineage, especially distinguished lineage.


When I look around at the media and the community I live in, it seems like the value that used to be placed on family is not as emphasized today. Parenting looks different, marriage looks different, and family looks different.

 Joshua 24:15

“But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your forefathers served beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD.”

All Christian households should be SERVING THE LORD. It can be so easy to become mixed up in priorities. Many times making money, the computer, the television, or whatever else comes first when it should not. Getting priorities straight is the best way I can think of to preserve family. When God is at the center of everything, then family is the way it should be. It seems as though God is left out of so many things. Many children I encounter today are disrespectful and selfish. They believe the world revolves around them because they were not taught any differently. I have heard children in grade school cussing, discussing their sexual activities (THEY ARE SEXUALLY ACTIVE HELLO!!!!) and talking about the R-rated movies they watched over the weekend. It is heartbreaking to think about how many children are being led astray. It is the responsibility of the parents to raise their children in a godly manner and to instill their values, and beliefs in them. Parents are given this responsibility and it is shown throughout the Old and the New Testaments…

Proverbs 22:6 

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Proverbs 29:15 

The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.

Proverbs 13:24 

Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.

Exodus 20:12 

“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.

Titus 2:4 

And so train the young women to love their husbands and children,

Genesis 2:24 

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Ephesians 6:1-4 

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Proverbs 29:17 

Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.

Proverbs 23:22 

Listen to your father who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old.

Proverbs 23:13-14 

Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol.

Proverbs 22:15 

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.

Psalm 127:3 

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.

Deuteronomy 5:16 

“‘Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.

Hebrews 12:5-11 

And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? “My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him. For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.” It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live?

Ephesians 5:33 

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Acts 5:29 

But Peter and the apostles answered, “We must obey God rather than men.

Matthew 19:3-9 

And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?” He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”

Psalm 127:3-5 

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.

The Bible is the guideline for how to live life! God did not just give us his Word to sit it on a shelf and never put it into practice… James 1:23-25…Take action! These aforementioned verses are so important for marriages, raising up godly children, and building God’s army! I hope these verses have encouraged some parents out there to do more for their children instead of the minimum. Serve God first, make Christ the foundation of your marriage and your life, and give your children the example they need from their parents. A new movie recently came out called Courageous. I encourage you to take your family to see this, or rent it when it comes out. This movie shows just how important godly parenting is and how it can save family…”Honor begins at home.” Satan is the one who comes to steal and kill and destroy (John 10:10-11)….don’t be one of those families that let him. Stand firm in the faith!


Blessings In Christ,


9 Responses to “What Family Should Be…”

  1. Excellent post, Jenny! Very well stated! I applaud you!

  2. Great post – thanks for sharing!

  3. Stewart Says:

    “All Christian households should be SERVING THE LORD. It can be so easy to become mixed up in priorities. Many times making money, the computer, the television, or whatever else comes first when it should not.”


    Rendering unto God that which is God’s is so important, but giving into spiritual sloth is far to easy in lives filled with a million distractions. This is certainly something I have to battle against.

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