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A Short List of What I Have Learned From Marriage So Far…(post 1) March 5, 2012

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Some things I have learned from marriage….

1. Read the Bible and pray together everyday.

I cannot express the importance of this enough. God should be the number one priority in both of your lives and you should be pursuing Him together. If God is at the center of your marriage, then you are not going to fail. Reading the Word together gives your relationship a deeper meaning. When you discuss God and what He expects from you, you are in His will. The Bible is what God gives us to help us get through life on earth. It is filled with everything we need to know and how we should be living. God tells us how we should be as husbands and wives and what our relationship should look like. Marriage is a reflection of the relationship between Christ and the church and our relationship with our spouse should be a glimpse of that heavenly relationship. Reading the Bible and praying is how we learn to love like Christ. Marriage can be a wonderful ministry! For our first year of marriage we read a book of devotions by Dr. James Dobson called Nightlight. It was wonderful for drawing us closer to one another and the discussion questions at the end of each section really helped us talk about important issues.

2. Be humble.

Being willing to forgive and to say I am sorry is an important part of being humble. Christ showed amazing humility. I am constantly drawn to John 13 when I think of humility and how Jesus washed the feet of his disciples in love. He knelt down as a lowly servant would have and ministered to his disciples. We should be constantly willing to do this for our spouse even when we aren’t “feeling” the love. I think it is extremely important to note that Christ washed the feet of Judas Iscariot in LOVE. He knew Judas was about to betray Him, yet he lovingly washed his dirty feet. We should be like this with our spouses striving to serve them in any way and to do so lovingly.

P.S.- The Bible tells us to never let the sun go down on our anger. Always resolve issues before going to bed. Do not just brush over them because then the anger, frustration and hurt continue to build until the problem feels irreconcilable.

3. Prioritize.

Prioritizing is one of the most important things you can do for your marriage. Your priorities should be God, your spouse, your children, etc. When your priorities are not straight, your marriage will begin to crumble. Let your spouse know with your words and your actions that they are your top priority under God. If you are telling them that they are your top priority and then spending all your time with your friends, or pursuing your hobbies, then you are shattering their trust in you and you are alienating them. If something or someone is getting in the way of your relationship with your spouse, drop that person or that activity. Nothing is more important than God and your marriage. 

4. Pray FOR one another.

Praying for one another is different than praying with one another. This is not an easy task, but we should be constantly lifting our spouse up in prayer even when we don’t feel like it. If you have never read The Power of a Praying Wife or The Power of a Praying Husband, then you should.

5. Invest Time.

When you are dating, your are investing so much time in your relationship. When you get married it is easier to quit investing as much time in one another. Set time aside each day to spend with your spouse. Make this time when you are completely focused on one another. If you have children, wait until you have put them to bed. Use this time to talk and to strengthen your relationship. It is also a good idea to set aside one night of the week as your date night. We prefer Sunday evenings to be our date night. We don’t spend much money, and we usually stay home, but it is necessary for us to have this time together to just have fun. It is easy to get wrapped up in all the problems of life that your time together becomes tension filled. It is nice to set aside problems one night a week and just enjoy one another’s company. I have another post coming soon about date night ideas that don’t cost much!

This is all I have time for tonight, but I will be posting more about marriage this week and the things I have learned so far. I feel that marriage is one of the most important things in this world and we should constantly be encouraging one another and other couples in their marriage relationship.

Blessings In Christ,
Jenny

 

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11 Responses to “A Short List of What I Have Learned From Marriage So Far…(post 1)”

  1. Good notes! I would also recommend checking out a great book called “Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerichs. It’s a simple Biblical concept (loving and respecting) but it helps all the areas you posted about!

  2. Good article, Jenny. We need all the help we can get in this chaotic world, and you point out some really good things here. I believe we have to love our spouse as God loves us–unconditionally. When both have their eyes on God and are seeking His path for their lives, a marriage will NOT fail!
    Great write! Keep up the good work, and thanks for sharing!

  3. desiray Says:

    Excellent list and if I can add more I would include date night. this is one both me and my hubby do . because we don’t want to lose sight of the fire we had when we was dating. Often times couples forget to date while they are married.

  4. We used the Nightlight book our first year of marriage also. Date nights are much rarer now, but it is all a season of life issue, really. Good advice.

  5. Eden Says:

    You are absolutely right. I recently bought “The Resolution for Men” and “The Resolution for Women” to work through with my husband. I’m looking forward to it. :)


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