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Prayer For Your Marriage March 13, 2012

Dear Heavenly Father,

Thank you for this life, for the gift of love, and the blessing of our marriage. We give you praise for the joy you’ve poured into our hearts through this love, for the contentment of family, and the happiness of our home. May we always treasure the experience of loving each other in this holy union. Help us to remain forever committed to our vows, those we made to each other, and to you, Lord.

We will need your strength daily Lord, as we live together with the goal of following and serving you. Develop within is us the character of your Son, Jesus, that we might love each other with the love he demonstrated—with patience, respect, understanding, honesty, forgiveness and kindness.

Let us always be a support to one another—a friend to listen and encourage, a refuge from the storm, and most importantly, a warrior in prayer.

Holy Spirit, guide us through the difficult moments of life and comfort us in our grief. May our lives together bring glory to you, our Savior, and testify of your love.

In Jesus’ Name.


–Mary Fairchild


A Short List of What I Have Learned From Marriage So Far…(post 1) March 5, 2012

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Some things I have learned from marriage….

1. Read the Bible and pray together everyday.

I cannot express the importance of this enough. God should be the number one priority in both of your lives and you should be pursuing Him together. If God is at the center of your marriage, then you are not going to fail. Reading the Word together gives your relationship a deeper meaning. When you discuss God and what He expects from you, you are in His will. The Bible is what God gives us to help us get through life on earth. It is filled with everything we need to know and how we should be living. God tells us how we should be as husbands and wives and what our relationship should look like. Marriage is a reflection of the relationship between Christ and the church and our relationship with our spouse should be a glimpse of that heavenly relationship. Reading the Bible and praying is how we learn to love like Christ. Marriage can be a wonderful ministry! For our first year of marriage we read a book of devotions by Dr. James Dobson called Nightlight. It was wonderful for drawing us closer to one another and the discussion questions at the end of each section really helped us talk about important issues.

2. Be humble.

Being willing to forgive and to say I am sorry is an important part of being humble. Christ showed amazing humility. I am constantly drawn to John 13 when I think of humility and how Jesus washed the feet of his disciples in love. He knelt down as a lowly servant would have and ministered to his disciples. We should be constantly willing to do this for our spouse even when we aren’t “feeling” the love. I think it is extremely important to note that Christ washed the feet of Judas Iscariot in LOVE. He knew Judas was about to betray Him, yet he lovingly washed his dirty feet. We should be like this with our spouses striving to serve them in any way and to do so lovingly.

P.S.- The Bible tells us to never let the sun go down on our anger. Always resolve issues before going to bed. Do not just brush over them because then the anger, frustration and hurt continue to build until the problem feels irreconcilable.

3. Prioritize.

Prioritizing is one of the most important things you can do for your marriage. Your priorities should be God, your spouse, your children, etc. When your priorities are not straight, your marriage will begin to crumble. Let your spouse know with your words and your actions that they are your top priority under God. If you are telling them that they are your top priority and then spending all your time with your friends, or pursuing your hobbies, then you are shattering their trust in you and you are alienating them. If something or someone is getting in the way of your relationship with your spouse, drop that person or that activity. Nothing is more important than God and your marriage. 

4. Pray FOR one another.

Praying for one another is different than praying with one another. This is not an easy task, but we should be constantly lifting our spouse up in prayer even when we don’t feel like it. If you have never read The Power of a Praying Wife or The Power of a Praying Husband, then you should.

5. Invest Time.

When you are dating, your are investing so much time in your relationship. When you get married it is easier to quit investing as much time in one another. Set time aside each day to spend with your spouse. Make this time when you are completely focused on one another. If you have children, wait until you have put them to bed. Use this time to talk and to strengthen your relationship. It is also a good idea to set aside one night of the week as your date night. We prefer Sunday evenings to be our date night. We don’t spend much money, and we usually stay home, but it is necessary for us to have this time together to just have fun. It is easy to get wrapped up in all the problems of life that your time together becomes tension filled. It is nice to set aside problems one night a week and just enjoy one another’s company. I have another post coming soon about date night ideas that don’t cost much!

This is all I have time for tonight, but I will be posting more about marriage this week and the things I have learned so far. I feel that marriage is one of the most important things in this world and we should constantly be encouraging one another and other couples in their marriage relationship.

Blessings In Christ,



Take Time To Be Holy… February 2, 2012

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I’ve been sitting here watching the sun fill the sky with light, chasing away the dark shadows, and I am overwhelmed with the splendor of it. The beauty of this earth the Father has created and all that creation praising him in the early morning light. I am reminded to be thankful, to count the blessings he bestows and to pray. Prayer is how we experience deep communion with the Creator and I don’t want to miss out.

Mark 1:35

Very early in the morning, while it was still dark,

Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place,

where he prayed.

Communion is more than just partaking of the Lord’s Supper at church. It is “an act or instance of sharing; intimate fellowship or rapport- communication.” I want to have this deep intimacy with God. It is something my heart yearns for, and hopefully yours does too. Jesus often went off to the lonely places to pray, early, even before dawn. He knew communion with the Father. It is necessary for us to spend quality time with the Lord, to set aside time for him. Stop the clock for him. Don’t just give him the few minutes you have here and there, give the other things in the day the few minutes, and really make time for the Lord. I know I am guilty of praying just every once in awhile throughout the day while I’m up to my ears in laundry or working on homework, and not stopping my clock for him.

Make time for the Lord, and he will return that time back to you. You have nothing to lose by stopping the movements and praying, praising, or meditating on the Word. Your life will be fuller, your cup will begin overflowing and you will know abundant joy. Jesus came that we would have life more abundantly. He acts as intercessor to the Father and allows that communion. He is speaking to the Father on your behalf. We pray in the name of Jesus, the spotless lamb and the Father hears. 

Stop your clock today, at least once and experience the peace that transcends understanding. Let the Father fill you up with his love and goodness. Let him use that time to transform your heart and renew your mind. Meditate on all things holy and experience the wonder of communion. Let me know how your journey to communion is coming along. I would love to encourage you, just leave a comment…

Take time to be holy, speak oft with thy Lord;
Abide in Him always, and feed on His Word.
Make friends of God’s children, help those who are weak,
Forgetting in nothing His blessing to seek.

Take time to be holy, the world rushes on;
Spend much time in secret, with Jesus alone.
By looking to Jesus, like Him thou shalt be;
Thy friends in thy conduct His likeness shall see.

Take time to be holy, let Him be thy Guide;
And run not before Him, whatever betide.
In joy or in sorrow, still follow the Lord,
And, looking to Jesus, still trust in His Word.

Take time to be holy, be calm in thy soul,
Each thought and each motive beneath His control.
Thus led by His Spirit to fountains of love,
Thou soon shalt be fitted for service above.

-William Longstaff

Blessings In Christ,


Daniel’s Prayers January 27, 2012

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Daniel 6:10 (NIV)
“Three times a day he got down on his knees and prayed, giving thanks to his God…” 

This week I felt led to create a Facebook group for a prayer challenge. The challenge is to stop and pray three times a day, just like Daniel did. I think this will significantly impact the people who commit and actively participate. God wants to hear from us. He wants to be praised! Get down on your knees and thank him, seep gratitude and wonder at his awesomeness!

Since I have begun stopping my clock for God, I feel peaceful and more sure of everything. I haven’t felt nearly as anxious as I typically do. Communicating with God is a MUST, and I am sad to say that many many people are not in the habit of taking time out to pray. I know that when I am praying, it is usually while I am in the middle of something else. I am not making it a priority to put my focus entirely on God. When we focus all our thoughts, our heart and our energy on him, we will feel better! I have also begun to notice God more throughout the day in all kinds of ways. I am more attuned to his hand in my life when I am determinedly communicating with him.

This challenge isn’t just to see if you can do it…it is to really build your life upon that unwavering rock and hold on with steadfast devotion! I feel that people will be able to see the change in you because when you are in communion with God, your insides start lighting you up on the outside! It is so wonderful to experience true peace in this world of uncertainty.

I hope that you determine to join in this challenge…start your own in your church, or with a group of friends, your family, or even people you work with. Hold one another accountable and encourage each other to take time out to pray.

If you decide to commit to the challenge comment on this post and I will begin praying for you on your journey to a deeper relationship with the Lord.

Blessings In Christ,


Obedience January 25, 2012

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Deuteronomy 6:4-9

New International Version (NIV)

 4 Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one.[a] 5 Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 6 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 9 Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates.

Ephesians 6:1

New International Version (NIV)

 1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.

Hebrews 13:17

New International Version (NIV)

  17 Have confidence in your leaders and submit to their authority, because they keep watch over you as those who must give an account. Do this so that their work will be a joy, not a burden, for that would be of no benefit to you.

1 Peter 4:16-17

New International Version (NIV)

16 However, if you suffer as a Christian, do not be ashamed, but praise God that you bear that name. 17 For it is time for judgment to begin with God’s household; and if it begins with us, what will the outcome be for those who do not obey the gospel of God?

Obedience is a theme I have noticed reoccurring throughout the Bible. Children are to be obedient to their parents, wives are to be somewhat obedient to their husbands. We are to be obedient to the laws of the land, and above all obedient to God. I found a great reference on a Christian website that defines obedience and submission…

Obedience to God is a daily happening. We have to go completely against our human nature to do as God commands. We have to be willing to submit to God’s will and his plan for our lives. Wonderful things come out of obedience to God. When Noah obeyed the Lord’s calling, he was richly blessed by being rescued from the flood. He was righteous and had many descendants. Noah didn’t question the Lord, he simply picked up his tools and went to work on an ark that people probably thought he was crazy for building. He didn’t quit halfway through because people questioned him or wondered if he had lost all his marbles. He was obedient through it all. I struggle with this….I want to always question and when I don’t find the answers, I stop. This is terrible because I am missing out on so many blessings when I balk at the voice of the Lord. I know that others struggle with this as well…stop passing up the blessings just because you aren’t trusting God enough to obey. He knows what He is doing!

Any thoughts on this? I’d love to hear them!

Blessings In Christ,


Resolutions and Lifestyle Changes December 26, 2011

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Hello Everyone! I hope that you had a wonderful Christmas celebrating the birth of our Savior yesterday!

Now, I am sure that some of us are already thinking about the next big holiday, New Year’s! Just a few days away! New Year’s is the time when people begin making resolutions and vowing to do things differently in the coming year. I am guilty of making these resolutions and not sticking to them…some that come to mind are, giving up fast food and soda, running ten miles a week, never let my dishes pile up, etc. These resolutions are always forgotten or just broken because I don’t feel like keeping them. A resolution is a firm decision to do or not to do something. This year I have decided not to make resolutions that won’t last, but to make a few lifestyle changes. I think there is a difference between a resolution and a lifestyle change because a lifestyle change is replacing old, bad habits with good, new ones. I want my changes to be permanent and to be a daily commitment. I am going to have someone holding me accountable to my new lifestyle as well. Here is a list of the lifestyle changes I am going to implement…

1. Spend at least 1 hour a day in quiet with the Lord.

I have learned that it is important to be quiet with God. I am constantly praying, but I rarely sit down to listen for an answer. God does speak to us, maybe not from a burning bush like he did with Moses, but he does speak and he does expect us to listen. If I am not spending at least an hour a day of quiet listening to the Lord, how am I going to know what he is saying? I think this is so important to my relationship with the Lord…we should be living for eternity and this is an important step in the lifestyle I should be leading. I think this quiet hour a day with the Lord is a good idea for all believers! Many people will say they don’t have an hour, but there are so many things we do throughout the day that are time wasters, Facebook, watching television, watching a movie in the evening, checking email…these are all very time consuming tasks…limiting time during these activities will leave time for things that are more important.

Proverbs 1:33 (NKJV)

33 But whoever listens to me will dwell safely,
And will be secure, without fear of evil.”

2. Spend at least 30 minutes a day in rigorous exercise.

I am terrible about this because I hate exercising. I never feel good while I am working out and I don’t feel good when I am finished. Therefore, I avoid this whenever possible! I have found myself watching my workout videos while eating breakfast…how sad is that?? I don’t know if any other people feel this way, but believe me it’s not fun! One way I am going to make myself stick to this lifestyle change is to keep reminding myself of the rewards that will come with exercise….pants that fit, more energy, better health, better balance of hormones, etc.

Proverbs 31:17 (NKJV)

17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.

Here are some articles related to exercise that I found interesting:
Exercise: 7 benefits of regular physical activity
5 Mind-Blowing Benefits of Exercise 
Health Benefits of Exercise

3. Put only good things on and into my body.

I have decided to eat only good things and to use things that will not harm me. I never realized all the stuff I put on that is putting toxins into my body, for instance deodorant is full of toxins! When you put it on, all the harmful chemicals seep into your body and can really harm you. There are many natural options out there that are good for you, baking soda, salt rocks, etc. Eating fast foods and foods that are processed are terrible for you, and I am going to cut as much of that out of my diet as I can. My lifestyle is going to change considerably in a positive way with this change because many foods can drag you down and sap your energy. I am looking forward to the boost this will give my immune system as well! Working in a school is a good way to get sick, but eating healthy foods will keep me better equipped to deal with the germs I encounter! Even products that I clean my house with can harm me and my husband. Breathing in toxic chemicals can also be very bad for you! The Bible emphasizes the importance of taking care of your body as well

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (NKJV)

19 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? 20 For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body[a] and in your spirit, which are God’s.

Related Articles about harmful products and foods:

Deodorant- Top 7 Ingredients to Avoid Healthy Eating Statistics: America’s Obesity Crisis
Ingredients in Makeup and Cosmetics that are Dangerous
Dangerous Household Chemicals

These are three things that I can do to improve the overall quality of my life. I am going to make these things a major priority and have someone hold me accountable to do them! Things are always easier with friends helping you remain strong in your decisions. I hope that my list has encouraged some of you to make some healthy lifestyle changes this year and to keep them in place for the rest of your life! My body is a temple of the Lord and I need to begin treating it like one! I would love to hear about your lifestyle changes as well!

Blessings In Christ,